The Ultimate Gift-List


I am supposed to do a fantastic/last-minute-ish gift list for you guys. Not that this blog is about “supposed tos” but Cath thought it would be a nice thing to do for you lovies. You know, be helpful bloggers, and not just navel gaze. Well, I’m totally going to be an unhelpful, self-centered blogger and do the latter.

This is about Cath and getting to be her identical twin.

I’ve been living thousands of miles away from Cath for almost 2.5 years now and not for a moment has it gotten easier. I miss the rest of my family and stateside friends so much too, but this is different. My homesickness ebbs and flows, but my twin-sickness (?) is constant. When I try to explain twin-sickness to people, the best I can come up with is that it feels like I’ve left a limb behind. There’s a constant tugging that never ever goes away until I’m close to her again.

I literally feel like my DNA is trying to tell me that because we were essentially the same organism at one time, we were never meant to be more than 30 miles apart from each other once we got past the zygote phase. After more than two years apart (with sparse holidays together scattered in between), I finally realize this is never going to feel easier or better as long as I’m not by her.

So my best Christmas present ever is getting to spend three weeks with Cath this year. And if I made a gift list, this is what it would look like:


So I’m sorry because I know that is the least helpful gift list for anyone else (excluding our parents, me thinks!). I do think though, that the best gift-lists are the ones with people on them, don’t you? I know I’m saying that during the last scramble to get your Christmas shopping done, but I hope it makes you feel a little less harried knowing that even if you don’t find the perfect thing for your wonderful people, they still get you! Mariah Carey, you knew it from the start (or at least early 90s), didn’t you?


Dear Cath,

I know future plans are still up in the air, but I wanted you to know how much being together means to me. I can’t wait to see you in just a week and a half! Yahooooooo!!!!

11 thoughts on “The Ultimate Gift-List”

  1. Lar, I love this!!! it’s the sweetest post ever. I feel the same way (of course) in every respect. Really all I want for Christmas is to spend time with you! I know we’ll be doing lots of family stuff, but we should make sure to schedule some down time together, ok?

    only 8 more days!!!

    xoxo, Cath

  2. This is really sweet!

    The boy has an identical twin; thank goodness I get along with his twin and his sister-in-law (they’re pretty cool people!), because if I didn’t it would’ve been a definite deal-breaker.

  3. Wow. I think this is my favorite gift-guide I’ve seen this season. this really hits it on the head. I’m so glad you’ll get to be with one another this Christmas!!! Enjoy it– I suggest staying up late after everyone else has gone to bed drinking wine or cocoa (or both!!) and giggling. Thanks for this, Lar!

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