My ideal closet

One of the reasons Cath and I changed the focus of the blog was to figure out how to dress better. That might sound silly coming from 32-year-old women who’ve spent the better part of nearly three decades dressing themselves, but I think your style evolves all your life.

And I don’t mean how to dress “on-trend” or be “fashionable”, but how to find your own style. That takes time and dedication. It also takes years of giving yourself the freedom to wear whatever you want, like this (holy-moly).

I’m not saying there aren’t some days where I still want to Gaga-it-up, but in general, I love the idea of being comfortable enough in my own skin to wear what I want — not because it looks cool but because it feels like me.

So before I tackled my closet clear-out this past weekend (post to come) I sat down and had a think:
• What sorts of things do I feel the best in (I mentioned this in my Uniform post).
• What do I wear the most and why
• Does my current closet fit my lifestyle (for instance, I bought a pair of Adidas because I thought it would make me feel like a fashion editor if I wore them with a beanie and long, minimalist coat — turns out that “look” makes me feel like a bald hobbit — not the lifestyle or look I am for, though I robustly support elevensies).
• Who are my style icons and why (see photos above)

I then delved into Pinterest with a purpose (no aimless scrolling here, ahem) and made a collage of lovely ladies who fit what seems to be a style that I’ve slowly gravitated toward since the end of my 20s:
• 1960s lines
• Monochrome, clean cut outfits
• Black and bold colors (I look washed out in pastels)
• Very little pattern or accessories
• And a bit of eccentricity thrown in

And I don’t just like this look, it also fits with the way I get dressed. Most of my clothes are solid colors because I think my 5’2 stature can’t handle the busy-ness of a pattern.* I also forget to put accessories on anyhow — and when I do remember I spend all day fiddling with them and clanking my bangles awkwardly on my desk. My closet already has lots of mini-skirts (again, good on a petite frame) and clean silhouettes. I also own a basket that I sometimes use as a purse (thank you, Jane Birkin).

It doesn’t matter what age you are. Any time is a good time to really review your current style. In the past when I’ve looked for inspiration, I would go online and find beautiful images of very stylish women and try to emulate them in order to feel fashionable. But I never did. What works on very tall, skinny models with natural bedhead hair never works for me and will never work for me. But that doesn’t mean you have to eschew your inspiration board, just spend a little more time with your images and really delve into why you were attracted to them.

Find inspiration and then learn how to make that fit your lifestyle and yourself.* Your closet and style will always be evolving, but it will begin to be small shifts that always look like you and no one else (even if you are an identical twin).

*Speaking of which, Cath and I have been discussing this idea of “dressing for your body type.” And we’re not sure this should be rammed down our throats as much as it is. Stay tuned for future posts about “dressing for type.”

6 thoughts on “My ideal closet”

  1. Hmm, I am not a fan of the whole dress for your body type thing… I agree that certain styles look better on certain body types, but also think that if you love the way something makes you feel, then body type be damned! At the end of the day I think fashion and style is mostly about attitude and I am a firm believer in “you do you”, to coin an overused phrase.
    LOVE your style icons!

  2. I love this post so much Lar! I approached it so differently than you (which you’ll see on Wednesday when my post goes live), but that’s what makes it so cool! I love the 1960s style that you’ve fallen head over heels for – the simplicity and elegance of it. Also, I never really wanted a basket as a purse when I saw pics of Jane Birken, until you started to use one! You’re my style icon!

    In regards to not dressing for your body, I’ve been thinking about that a lot. I know why we do it and why magazines always have those “how to dress for your body type” articles. Mini skirts look better on short women than midi skirts – it’s true. But it’s also so freeing not to have to think about those things and just wear something because you love the feel of it. Of course that would mean I’d wear sweatpants all day – albeit fashionable sweat pants, but still…

    I completely agree with you that your inspiration and style constantly evolve. While that might sound exhausting to some, it makes me so giddy to see what’s next for you and me!

    xoxo, Cath

  3. I love this topic and how you’ve approached it!

    Since our KonMari cleanout last spring, I think my style has evolved towards a much more casual aesthetic, but one that fits my everyday life. There’s no dress code in our IT office and I’m heading to and from barre classes so I’m always sore in some way and I appreciate being comfy. Plus, there’s less stress on beauty bloggers to dress a certain way compared to style blogger.s 😉

    I totally agree with your sentiment that style is always evolving. For now mine seems to have settled on:
    -Lots of neutrals and blue
    -Any pops of colour (like cobalt or burnt orange or pink) must complement blue
    -Stud earrings and necklaces (like you, I don’t like the fussiness of clinking bangles while I’m typing at a desk, and I don’t like removing rings and putting them back on every time I go to the washroom)
    -Interesting flat shoes
    -Outfit formulas that revolve around 3 pieces (no fancy layering required)

  4. i love how different you and Cath are. i have to say my personal style aligns a little more with you Lar…but i seriously envy Cath’s practicality. maybe i should hire the two of you to put a new wardrobe together for me.

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